I’m Chas Neal, a mental health therapist specializing in working with men and paternal mental health. Personally, I’m a proud husband and father of two young, wild boys. I enjoy hiking, running, fantasy novels, and occasionally taking on home improvement projects that are well beyond my skill level. 

For the last decade, I’ve chosen to focus my career on working with men and fathers because I know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed, angry, and stuck. I made many attempts to find “quick fixes.” I read books, strived, criticized myself, and struggled to handle it on my own. It wasn’t until I found external support and started paying more attention to my emotions that I was able to address the underlying roots of my issues and actually start creating lasting change.

As a father, I underwent the transition into parenthood and the challenges that accompany this monumental shift in identity, relationships, and daily living. My favorite work with men today is giving them the support I wish I had during this season of early parenthood. The support to challenge long-standing unhealthy patterns, the guidance to find and build new skills to meet the demands of this new version of my life, and the encouragement to connect with the love, connection, and compassion that this season offers, but doesn’t guarantee.

To the Moms – this transition can be hard for everyone. Men often only seek help when given a bit of a push, but I promise you – most of us want to be better, to show up for our families; we just don’t know how. Don’t hesitate to tell your partners to get their ass in gear and ask for help if they need it. 

To the Dads – It’s easy to stay the angry young man; harder to soften into love, take responsibility, and show up for our people. Being a good man, partner, or dad takes more than sacrifice; it requires support. You want to be a rock for your family, but a rock can’t offer any stability without a strong foundation beneath it. Therapy can help you find the balance. To be the man and steady leader you want to be – navigating new obstacles and opportunities with strength, composure, and love.